leaving.... but not completely

Hey guys. For whoever is still reading this blog I really appreciate your love and support. I'm moving.
I'm going to soon get rid of this blog and will begin blogging solely through WordPress.com.

The URL is mylovelythoughts.wordpress.com.

Please continue following.

Love you all!

-E

the future is going to the toilet

It’s back to school time. And all the kids are getting ready. Shopping for clothes and supplies and things they don’t need.

But are all their parents’ precious tax dollars going down the toilet?

When I graduated, the freshmen class coming in could not even find North and South Korea on a map. And kids these days think that words like “interesting” and “coincidence” are big words.

What the heck?!

Might as well home-school your kids if they’re gonna turn out just as retarded in public school. Smh. So sad.

These are the children that will be running our country soon. Doctors, lawyers, politicians.

I mean, kids are playing on iPhones and Xboxs before they can read. No words for such foolishness. Not on my end at least.

Weird dream

So since no one responded to my last post about my new art form, I will forgive you guys- whoever actually reads this- and move on. lol.

I had the weirdest dream that I was at a graduation party being silly and just broke out and starting doing the robot. I was all into it too. Then, my friends around me laughed and started doing it too. Haha so fun! I have the weirdest dreams. It felt so real though!!

I had to ask my sis today, did that really happen? (Because I did really go to a graduation party on Saturday.) But she said it didn't actually happen in real life :(

So I'm just losing my mind. lol.

a new art form

After a family gathering the other day- surrounded by accomplished, talented family members- I have decided that I need to jump start a new project.
I would love to start painting but would not know where to start. Or with what?
Can you help?
Please.
My reputation in my family and my very future depends on it.

my love

I'm happy to be single. I think few people can say that. I am using my time and energy to learn Hindi and focus on my job. (No distractions from confusing, emotional relationships.)

The only love in my life right now is my cat. I'm usually a dog person. But this cat just showed up on our front yard one night. He chose me. What could I do? Leave him to fend for himself?
The love affair started by giving him food and water outside. Then he started acting like he wanted to come outside. Strange behavior for a stray cat. So we let him in one day. Ever since then, he has been driving me crazy with his crazy antics that only a cat person could love. (Hard for me to do since I'm a dog person.) But he is so sweet and affectionate- when he's not chasing my feet and scratching me up- that I can't help but love him :)

How do people live without pets?

Now we just have to think of a name. He just responds to "Baby" so far lol. But that's not a manly name for him. When the outside cats hear us call him that, he will get teased and laughed at. Can you help us think of ideas for cat names?

my current obsession

I'm obsessed with tunics right now. Probably not the best choice since I'm so short, but i don't get them if they're too too long. Believe me. lol.
I just would really like to find a store where I can buy a cheap, but cute, thick brown belt to wear around my waist with them before the hot weather is gone.
Any good suggestions?

(above: Grecian tunic by RESERVED)

It's time for cute summer dresses

It's been ridiculously hot here on the East Coast these last few weeks! Shorts and dresses are becoming a must. Here is a great option/ suggestion for an everyday look.
This Loyale brand dress is from the spring 2009 collection. I personally would like to make the look more memorable- and not completely blend in with the sweaty crowd- by switching the necklace in the collection with the one I posted above it. It is a transforming necklace by Bernadette Deddens. You can mold it to look like the shape you want. Very nice. I honestly have no clue where you can get it, or something like it, but it just looks really cool. Don't you think? Much better choice for this cute dress.

Watch Your Mouth

Have you noticed that nowadays people are incapable of voicing their opinions or getting a point across without cussing at least once?

I was watching one of my guilty little pleasures, "You're Cut Off", on Vh1 the other day. The prettiest girls can say the ugliest words. Really, it's disgusting. Not lady-like at all.

It's bad enough when men cuss unnecessarily, e.g. songs like "Billionaire" by Travie McCoy featuring Bruno Mars, which would've been a great song without the cussing. But to hear a woman cuss like a sailor too. Ugh! Not cool.

Can we all watch our mouths please? Try going without cussing for at least a week. See how much better your vocab will be and how much more professional you will sound when you have to find new words to get your point across. Just try it. It will make the world a better place... one person at a time.

Sharp Words

A saying, when mild, can turn away rage,
But when not,
Can cause it to grow, to fester, to age.
And when it grows it does not stop.
It's not just a bump;
It's a boil, a lump.
It's itchy and painful, but it will not pop.
A lump filled with vitriolic words
And for it, there is no ointment,
no medicine, no cure.
Contagious, it spreads to all you know and love.
Soon all the people you care about
are also in pain;
Hateful, vicious, spiteful, smug.
It becomes a pandemic.
It consumes the whole town, state, country, and wide world round.

All could've been prevented
by one gentle word.
Season your words with salt-
not curry or paprika.
And all you say will somehow be sweeter.
They will not cause any harm or discomfort.
No lumps or boils will ever appear,
And the ones you love won't live in fear
of talking to you or getting close;
All will be as intended, supposed.

5/10/10 EF

Still There?

For all my loyal followers, I have not forgotten about you. I hope to post some new pics and poems soon. Thank you for being there. Until then, I will give you a new poem.

The Dog Named Anxiety

The tears stop,
but the pain doesn't fade away.
Anxiety forever follows me
like a dog without a home.
'I'm sorry little one,
I have no room for you,' I say.
But he keeps lagging behind.
Persistent with no cause.

As the night falls,
and darkness creeps in,
so does he.
Why can't I get away from him?

I lose focus.

I end up taking him home.

written 3/8/10 EF

Torn

I extend,
I reach,
I cower.
I want to;
I'm eager.
But I can't.
My body is torn,
this direction and that.
My mind is the compass-
deceitful,
indecisive.
Do I choose one
and forsake the other?
Or do I choose neither,
and live forever lonely;
not knowing?

3/4/10 EF

sharp dresser

i love this pic. cracks me up! he's dressed sharp tho...

cute sweater

well since it hasnt yet started to warm up on the east coast, i figured i would show you guys this cute sweater... cool, unique. knotted. wish i could have it.

skirts i'd love for spring

love these skirts! i need them!
from top: urban outfitters, tallulah skirt from French Connection- it has a removable lining (how cool!), and lastly, a skirt from Democracy of Nevermind.

Valentine's Day is a joke

Why would you honor a day dedicated to showing affection only ONE DAY out of the whole year?!

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 says, "Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

These qualities cannot be developed in one day. One day each year.
It must be worked at every single day of our lives. It would take a lifetime to even get close to being good at those qualities.

So keep working at it lovies. We'll get it right eventually.

My Current Obsessions

Cool gray leggings with buttons all the way down, a cool cardigan scarf-- who couldn't use a scarf with pockets!-- and a reversible cardigan from Society for Rational Dress. All so cool and unique. The reversible cardigan would nicely carry over into spring.

The Power of Laughter

Laughter is a force all its own. It can change a person's perception. It is contagious. And it can relieve stress when you're having a bad day. Do not resist it; embrace it.

Being a twin

My sister and I have been asked several times, "What is it like being a twin?" I never gave it much thought. Our response was always, "It's just like having a very close siblingg who you are with all the time." But I've given it thought, and it is much more than that!

I love being a twin. (I would even love giving birth to twins- just to witness and be a part of how that love and closeness grows over time.)

My twin sis is my best friend. I can see if something is bothering her just by looking at her face or body language or listening to the way she says something. With her, I always have someone to talk to. She understands me more than anyone on the planet. And I have a bond and love with her that is stronger than my love for my mom and the rest of my friends and family.

Every plan I make for the future includes her. She is always the first on any list that I make when I plan to do something.

My life would be a mess without her and I cannot imagine how I could live happily if I was not a twin.

What is a friend?

People can spend their whole lives looking for true, loyal, compatible friends. I must admit, I've spent years looking for good ones too. But after much prayer and cutting people off, I worked along with my prayers and SEARCHED for good friends.
And you know what, I found them. Some absolutely great people who have come to be like sisters and family members to me!

So what are the characteristics of a true friend?
Well I am not claiming to be the wisest person in the world, but I will tell you what I have found to be the characteristics to look for in a good friend.

1) Honesty
There is nothing worse than having a dishonest person around you. A dishonest person cannot be trusted. It doesn't even matter if they are lying to you or not. If your friend continually lies to family and other friends, even if just- what some consider- a "little white lie", what makes you think they don't tell you "little white lies" all the time without you knowing it?

2) Dependability
The relationship, as in most relationships, must have reciprosity. I have lost many friends, and grown apart from many friends, who always expect something from me, but aren't there when I need them.

3) Loyalty
This is not to say that you must be clingy and you should be the only person in your friend's life. Far from it! When I say loyalty, I think mostly of loyalty in actions and speech. A loyal friend would never gossip about you or talk about you behind your back. (If one of your friends gossips to you about other people they consider as acquaintances, what makes you think that they don't tell your business when your name comes up in conversation? Just saying. Be observant.)

If you take time to look for a good friend, believe me, you will find one.

open-mindedness

If that is a word... lol either way you know what I'm talking about.
I feel that it is important for people to try new things- things out of their comfort zone- in order to really, truly get the most out of life.
That's why it is one of my biggest pet peeves to meet people who are resistant to change and trying new things.

I understand being hesitant, but don't knock new things and ideas immediately without giving it a chance.

I went to a spanish party- one of the many I've been to- but this one was a graduation party. Of course they had great food available, and lots of it. So my friends and I, along with everyone else, ate before we danced our butts off. One woman, who was helping serve, asked if we wanted to try a certain dish. We asked, "What is it?" (It looked like beef.) And she said, "I don't want to tell you. You may not want to eat it when you know what it is." We laughed, but all my friends passed on eating it. But not me. I said, "Sure, I'll try it." Come to find out later, when we were done eating, that it was COW TONGUE...
But you know what, it was pretty good. It just tasted like chewy beef. I didn't even notice the little hairs on the tongue until after she told me what it was. lol.

I say all that to say, trying new things will not kill you.
I have friends that refuse to listen to music other than rap or r&b. I have other friends who refuse to try new foods like sushi.

Just try new things my loves...
Listen to a new song or music group out of your comfort zone- and don't make fun of friends who listen to different things, or change their radio station or iPod song everytime you get in their car. Try a different food. Try a different dance. Drive a different way home or to work. Watch a different sport or hobby. Hang out with people you usually don't hang out with. Travel to a place you have never been before...

I'm telling you, you will regret years of boredom and lack of variety until you become open-minded. Don't let life pass you by without tasting it first.

Spring 2010 trends

When I get my money back from the college I decided I have so many things to buy... including clothes. The problem is that by the time the money comes I will need to start buying spring clothes.
So I looked up what's in for Spring 2010.
There are endless possibilities. Florals, ruffles, bright colors, bows, shorts, rompers, animal prints, mixed prints, netting, goddess looks and draping, and unique feminine or sport suits.
Hope my wardrobe works out for this spring!
(the look above is from Donna Karan's Spring 2010 collection. so feminine and beautiful draping, but hugs the curves. love it!)

Why women were created from a rib

why God created women the way he did:

Woman was not created from the head so as to not be controlling, but submissive and cooperative. We were not created from the foot so as not to be trampled on or taken advantage of.

Instead, woman was created from man's rib.
Underneath the arm for protection, and close to his heart for unconditional love.

nothing much to say about it, i just think that these look cool lol

The Queen

Small in stature,
but mighty in mind.
She slithers up to her throne-
the highest in the world.
Unreachable.
Only she knows
how to ascend and descend.

Her crown is not her own,
But she wears it
with the most pride.
Sitting tall,
adorned with all the
biggest and brightest jewels.
Invaluable.

Her palace and gown
are drenched in green.
The colors change with her mood.
But only from green to black.

Her servants approach,
lowly in mind,
quivering in fear,
afraid to hear her next request
escape from between her fangs.
Each command
made with a hiss.
Her fork-like tongue
and sharp words
probe their ears;
make them bleed.
Trapped.

She wraps around them,
squeezing,
crushing.
Her next meal.
No servants are left.

She descends from her throne,
preying on the weak.
She finds small animals,
eggs.
Nothing satiates her appetite.

She turns to family,
devouring everything in sight.
Except the king.
He goes untouched;
unharmed.

No one is left.
The kingdom is empty.
No more servants.
No successors.
She is alone...
But her belly is full.

1/21/10 EF

quick sand

Wet under my feet.
I try to run-
faster.
Legs give all their might.
Futile.
With each step
I sink deeper
into the sand.

Waves crash behind me;
Become my background music.
But where is the lead?
the chorus?
the main hook?

Motivation.
If they can move,
so can I.
Why can't I?

I try again;
sink again.
Pain creeps up my thigh.
I lose count
of my number of tries;
they become as innumerable
as these grains of sand.

Dawn drops.
I can still see you walking
Away from me-
farther, farther.
I begin to lose sight of you.
The seas calm.
Why did I try so hard?
It was unattainable.

1/21/10

My current obsession

I love big necklaces! I know they were in during the fall of '09... Are they still in right now?

I'm officially obsessed with this website!

One of my twitter friends got me addicted on this website called apartmenttherapy.com. I LOVE it! It hosts great pictures and ideas of how to customize, organize, and decorate houses and rooms of all sizes. Absolutely friggin awesome! Check it out.

my current obsession

these photographs by elene usdin. very talented.

Multi-tasking

I had a friend tell me that multitasking burns your braincells. "Our brains were created to focus only on one thing at a time." When we try to do more than that, using more than one part of your brain, supposedly, we are damaging ourselves and losing valuable skills and memory.

Now, I don't know if that is true or not, but it made me think.
We are always so busy with the anxieties of life and doing more than one thing at a time, that we do not take the time to focus on the tasks at hand. It is such a shame.

We need to take the time to smell the roses.
Our lives are so short.
Do not take advantage of the things you experience, see, smell, touch, and do.
That way we can cherish and savor our memories for life.

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argument, madness...
anger builds inside me.
fury. it was pointless.

dating/the one

When will I meet him?
Is my heart ready to commit?
I still do not know.

passive

Yearning, cannot breathe.
Bottle it up; they can't see.
Feelings never show.