My sister and I have been asked several times, "What is it like being a twin?" I never gave it much thought. Our response was always, "It's just like having a very close siblingg who you are with all the time." But I've given it thought, and it is much more than that!
I love being a twin. (I would even love giving birth to twins- just to witness and be a part of how that love and closeness grows over time.)
My twin sis is my best friend. I can see if something is bothering her just by looking at her face or body language or listening to the way she says something. With her, I always have someone to talk to. She understands me more than anyone on the planet. And I have a bond and love with her that is stronger than my love for my mom and the rest of my friends and family.
Every plan I make for the future includes her. She is always the first on any list that I make when I plan to do something.
My life would be a mess without her and I cannot imagine how I could live happily if I was not a twin.
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Friday, January 29, 2010
What is a friend?
People can spend their whole lives looking for true, loyal, compatible friends. I must admit, I've spent years looking for good ones too. But after much prayer and cutting people off, I worked along with my prayers and SEARCHED for good friends.
And you know what, I found them. Some absolutely great people who have come to be like sisters and family members to me!
So what are the characteristics of a true friend?
Well I am not claiming to be the wisest person in the world, but I will tell you what I have found to be the characteristics to look for in a good friend.
1) Honesty
There is nothing worse than having a dishonest person around you. A dishonest person cannot be trusted. It doesn't even matter if they are lying to you or not. If your friend continually lies to family and other friends, even if just- what some consider- a "little white lie", what makes you think they don't tell you "little white lies" all the time without you knowing it?
2) Dependability
The relationship, as in most relationships, must have reciprosity. I have lost many friends, and grown apart from many friends, who always expect something from me, but aren't there when I need them.
3) Loyalty
This is not to say that you must be clingy and you should be the only person in your friend's life. Far from it! When I say loyalty, I think mostly of loyalty in actions and speech. A loyal friend would never gossip about you or talk about you behind your back. (If one of your friends gossips to you about other people they consider as acquaintances, what makes you think that they don't tell your business when your name comes up in conversation? Just saying. Be observant.)
If you take time to look for a good friend, believe me, you will find one.
And you know what, I found them. Some absolutely great people who have come to be like sisters and family members to me!
So what are the characteristics of a true friend?
Well I am not claiming to be the wisest person in the world, but I will tell you what I have found to be the characteristics to look for in a good friend.
1) Honesty
There is nothing worse than having a dishonest person around you. A dishonest person cannot be trusted. It doesn't even matter if they are lying to you or not. If your friend continually lies to family and other friends, even if just- what some consider- a "little white lie", what makes you think they don't tell you "little white lies" all the time without you knowing it?
2) Dependability
The relationship, as in most relationships, must have reciprosity. I have lost many friends, and grown apart from many friends, who always expect something from me, but aren't there when I need them.
3) Loyalty
This is not to say that you must be clingy and you should be the only person in your friend's life. Far from it! When I say loyalty, I think mostly of loyalty in actions and speech. A loyal friend would never gossip about you or talk about you behind your back. (If one of your friends gossips to you about other people they consider as acquaintances, what makes you think that they don't tell your business when your name comes up in conversation? Just saying. Be observant.)
If you take time to look for a good friend, believe me, you will find one.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
open-mindedness
If that is a word... lol either way you know what I'm talking about.
I feel that it is important for people to try new things- things out of their comfort zone- in order to really, truly get the most out of life.
That's why it is one of my biggest pet peeves to meet people who are resistant to change and trying new things.
I understand being hesitant, but don't knock new things and ideas immediately without giving it a chance.
I went to a spanish party- one of the many I've been to- but this one was a graduation party. Of course they had great food available, and lots of it. So my friends and I, along with everyone else, ate before we danced our butts off. One woman, who was helping serve, asked if we wanted to try a certain dish. We asked, "What is it?" (It looked like beef.) And she said, "I don't want to tell you. You may not want to eat it when you know what it is." We laughed, but all my friends passed on eating it. But not me. I said, "Sure, I'll try it." Come to find out later, when we were done eating, that it was COW TONGUE...
But you know what, it was pretty good. It just tasted like chewy beef. I didn't even notice the little hairs on the tongue until after she told me what it was. lol.
I say all that to say, trying new things will not kill you.
I have friends that refuse to listen to music other than rap or r&b. I have other friends who refuse to try new foods like sushi.
Just try new things my loves...
Listen to a new song or music group out of your comfort zone- and don't make fun of friends who listen to different things, or change their radio station or iPod song everytime you get in their car. Try a different food. Try a different dance. Drive a different way home or to work. Watch a different sport or hobby. Hang out with people you usually don't hang out with. Travel to a place you have never been before...
I'm telling you, you will regret years of boredom and lack of variety until you become open-minded. Don't let life pass you by without tasting it first.
I feel that it is important for people to try new things- things out of their comfort zone- in order to really, truly get the most out of life.
That's why it is one of my biggest pet peeves to meet people who are resistant to change and trying new things.
I understand being hesitant, but don't knock new things and ideas immediately without giving it a chance.
I went to a spanish party- one of the many I've been to- but this one was a graduation party. Of course they had great food available, and lots of it. So my friends and I, along with everyone else, ate before we danced our butts off. One woman, who was helping serve, asked if we wanted to try a certain dish. We asked, "What is it?" (It looked like beef.) And she said, "I don't want to tell you. You may not want to eat it when you know what it is." We laughed, but all my friends passed on eating it. But not me. I said, "Sure, I'll try it." Come to find out later, when we were done eating, that it was COW TONGUE...
But you know what, it was pretty good. It just tasted like chewy beef. I didn't even notice the little hairs on the tongue until after she told me what it was. lol.
I say all that to say, trying new things will not kill you.
I have friends that refuse to listen to music other than rap or r&b. I have other friends who refuse to try new foods like sushi.
Just try new things my loves...
Listen to a new song or music group out of your comfort zone- and don't make fun of friends who listen to different things, or change their radio station or iPod song everytime you get in their car. Try a different food. Try a different dance. Drive a different way home or to work. Watch a different sport or hobby. Hang out with people you usually don't hang out with. Travel to a place you have never been before...
I'm telling you, you will regret years of boredom and lack of variety until you become open-minded. Don't let life pass you by without tasting it first.
Spring 2010 trends
When I get my money back from the college I decided I have so many things to buy... including clothes. The problem is that by the time the money comes I will need to start buying spring clothes.
So I looked up what's in for Spring 2010.
There are endless possibilities. Florals, ruffles, bright colors, bows, shorts, rompers, animal prints, mixed prints, netting, goddess looks and draping, and unique feminine or sport suits.
Hope my wardrobe works out for this spring!
(the look above is from Donna Karan's Spring 2010 collection. so feminine and beautiful draping, but hugs the curves. love it!)
Monday, January 25, 2010
Why women were created from a rib
why God created women the way he did:
Woman was not created from the head so as to not be controlling, but submissive and cooperative. We were not created from the foot so as not to be trampled on or taken advantage of.
Instead, woman was created from man's rib.
Underneath the arm for protection, and close to his heart for unconditional love.
Friday, January 22, 2010
The Queen
Small in stature,
but mighty in mind.
She slithers up to her throne-
the highest in the world.
Unreachable.
Only she knows
how to ascend and descend.
Her crown is not her own,
But she wears it
with the most pride.
Sitting tall,
adorned with all the
biggest and brightest jewels.
Invaluable.
Her palace and gown
are drenched in green.
The colors change with her mood.
But only from green to black.
Her servants approach,
lowly in mind,
quivering in fear,
afraid to hear her next request
escape from between her fangs.
Each command
made with a hiss.
Her fork-like tongue
and sharp words
probe their ears;
make them bleed.
Trapped.
She wraps around them,
squeezing,
crushing.
Her next meal.
No servants are left.
She descends from her throne,
preying on the weak.
She finds small animals,
eggs.
Nothing satiates her appetite.
She turns to family,
devouring everything in sight.
Except the king.
He goes untouched;
unharmed.
No one is left.
The kingdom is empty.
No more servants.
No successors.
She is alone...
But her belly is full.
1/21/10 EF
quick sand
Wet under my feet.
I try to run-
faster.
Legs give all their might.
Futile.
With each step
I sink deeper
into the sand.
Waves crash behind me;
Become my background music.
But where is the lead?
the chorus?
the main hook?
Motivation.
If they can move,
so can I.
Why can't I?
I try again;
sink again.
Pain creeps up my thigh.
I lose count
of my number of tries;
they become as innumerable
as these grains of sand.
Dawn drops.
I can still see you walking
Away from me-
farther, farther.
I begin to lose sight of you.
The seas calm.
Why did I try so hard?
It was unattainable.
1/21/10
I try to run-
faster.
Legs give all their might.
Futile.
With each step
I sink deeper
into the sand.
Waves crash behind me;
Become my background music.
But where is the lead?
the chorus?
the main hook?
Motivation.
If they can move,
so can I.
Why can't I?
I try again;
sink again.
Pain creeps up my thigh.
I lose count
of my number of tries;
they become as innumerable
as these grains of sand.
Dawn drops.
I can still see you walking
Away from me-
farther, farther.
I begin to lose sight of you.
The seas calm.
Why did I try so hard?
It was unattainable.
1/21/10
Monday, January 18, 2010
My current obsession
I love big necklaces! I know they were in during the fall of '09... Are they still in right now?
Thursday, January 14, 2010
I'm officially obsessed with this website!
One of my twitter friends got me addicted on this website called apartmenttherapy.com. I LOVE it! It hosts great pictures and ideas of how to customize, organize, and decorate houses and rooms of all sizes. Absolutely friggin awesome! Check it out.
Monday, January 11, 2010
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Multi-tasking
I had a friend tell me that multitasking burns your braincells. "Our brains were created to focus only on one thing at a time." When we try to do more than that, using more than one part of your brain, supposedly, we are damaging ourselves and losing valuable skills and memory.
Now, I don't know if that is true or not, but it made me think.
We are always so busy with the anxieties of life and doing more than one thing at a time, that we do not take the time to focus on the tasks at hand. It is such a shame.
We need to take the time to smell the roses.
Our lives are so short.
Do not take advantage of the things you experience, see, smell, touch, and do.
That way we can cherish and savor our memories for life.
Now, I don't know if that is true or not, but it made me think.
We are always so busy with the anxieties of life and doing more than one thing at a time, that we do not take the time to focus on the tasks at hand. It is such a shame.
We need to take the time to smell the roses.
Our lives are so short.
Do not take advantage of the things you experience, see, smell, touch, and do.
That way we can cherish and savor our memories for life.
